Man has always been mad.
Mad about gold. Mad about discovery. Mad about beer, women, whiskey, cars, sports, and money. Man has always been far away fighting wars or nearby fighting markets. It’s indisputable that if man did not provide for and protect his family then he would be deemed “Not Fit for Duty”. Is this something that will forever remain consistent in the family structure?
When I was in the Navy, superior officers drilled this one into my head: “Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one and they all stink“. Well, here’s my opinion. I’m sure it will piss some of you off. But what do I care? I’m not one of those modern “sensitive” softies. Not afraid to get dirty, not afraid to clean myself up, and I’m quite fond of the old adage, “Classy never goes out of style”. And lastly, I’m sure as hell not afraid to tell you that I don’t give a damn about whether or not you agree with my opinion — we’re just talkin’ here, man to man.
What it Means to be a Man in the Modern World
Maybe he’s a jack-of-all-trades, able to fix shit and change tires quickly as his lady can flip a pancake. Maybe he’s “a God-fearin’ man” or perhaps he curses like a sailor and has muscles so big and so strong he can lift buses off the children stuck beneath ’em. Maybe he’d have a husky voice, a kickass beard, listen to The Rolling Stones and have a palate partial to whiskey. Or perhaps he’d tuck in his spring-hued polo, wear boat shoes and chinos and open doors for old ladies of whom he’d address by madam and ma’am.
Society has changed. The role of a man isn’t cut and clear like it used to be. “Man provide for family. Man put food on table. Man no cry”. Traditional family dynamics stand afar from contemporary values, hence there’s this question nagging at our heels; as we evolve, as we take steps forward, as we try to feel comfortable in our own skin, we are dying to know; what is the role of a modern man?
Women have influenced admirable changes in society. They have fought for equality and a just world. Women have tamed men. Man is no longer the dictator of society. Man is no longer a wild and strong beast that rules as a patriarch with a primal and self-proclaimed sense of power. This most recent episode in human evolution has created an intellectual revolution. And the results: we live in a world with more reason, justice, and equality.
“Equal weight defines balance, but individual strengths working together define unity and structure.”
Man has been given permission to wear his heart on his sleeve. To display affection, to love and to share his pride. This burden comes with immense hope for future generations. Man has learned that two is better than one, and that the world is more suitably managed when his counterpart has equivalent authority. And man should know, equal weight defines balance, but individual strengths working together define unity and structure.
It is unreasonable to reduce man to one type or model. The world needs blacksmiths and farmers just as much as it needs bankers and accountants. It needs leaders as much as it needs followers. It needs men, women and children, blacks, whites and asians, CEO’s and custodians. But nevertheless, it’s fair to make this generalization about the modern man; he is not defined on whether he’s debonair or a mangled mess. He’s not defined on whether he can bench-press 300 pounds or solve complex equations. He’s defined on accountability. Providing and protecting. Modern family dynamics have apparently evolved, but the very core of what it means to be a man has never changed, and it never will change.